Living Life

This was my post from Aug. 23, 2014.

https://purpleslobinrecovery.wordpress.com/2014/08/23/life-happens/

 

I talked about loving everyone while they’re here, cuz ya never know when they will be gone.        At that time, I had no idea that my BIL, Jeffery, would die so suddenly on Oct 3, 2015, only a year later.          And that DH would become XH 2 years later.    

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Please hug and kiss all your loved ones, immediately!!          Tell them you love them!!     Life is not guaranteed!          All we have for sure, is today.

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Divorce Decree

Doomsday is coming…..  It was with mixed feelings that I arrived at the courthouse.

I have many questions, and I’m not sure this is the perfect solution to our problems.   But sometimes in real life, you have to let go, when you’ve done all you can.

Well, it’s happened.   The Mitchell marriage is officially over.   Date of death: February 24, 2016.

Mitchell marriage ended Feb 24 2016

My 55th birthday

 

 

How ironic, my 4th marriage ended on my 55th birthday…..   I pray to God that I never have to go thru this again.

Thank you everyone for your support during this time of grief.   I thought it would be okay, since we’ve been separated so long.   But divorce is still a death, and has to be grieved.   I’m sure peace will come in time.

Mitchell marriage:  Even with all your challenges, you put up a good fight to live.

13 years is a long time, yet not long enough.

                            

               RIP Mitchell marriage

 

 

Divorce Decision

With a pervasive sense of sadness, I drove to the courthouse, and filed my divorce papers.  

divorce paper

We’ve tried to make our marriage work, we just couldn’t.

The clerk couldn’t say how long it would take to have a court date. So, we’ll see….

 

 

Endings are always bittersweet.

Bitter, because I feel like a failure.   This is my third divorce.   What kind of awful person am I, anyway??   (The only saving grace in my mind is, the first 2 divorces were to the same husband.   No one can ever say we didn’t try!)

Sweet, because it will be a relief to just have it done, and over with.   Even as amicable as we are, there is always a certain tension.

So, on to practical matters.  For obvious reasons, DH will now be referred to as XH. (EX-Husband.)

We have agreed to remain friends, so he may still appear now and again.

My name will be changing again.   Not to my last married name, but to my first married name.  Since we have children together, with that name, and I was a Woideck longer than anything else, except my maiden name, Hawkins.

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“Boutonniere-whitesuit” by David Ball – Own work. Licensed under CC BY 2.5 via Wikimedia Commons – https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Boutonniere-whitesuit.jpg#/media/File:Boutonniere-whitesuit.jpg

 

 

  My last married name, Sanchez, never felt truly mine.  Probably because he died of cancer after only 2 months.   And being a widow was so shocking, and painful, that nothing felt right.

 

 

 

 

And now a new chapter begins……

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Hey, it says what I needed- (the first line anyway! ) AND- IT”S PURPLE!!